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a poem to my sisters:

COMMON BONDS

Flowers fading... into the night

The winds... that blow away The falling of an oak... with all of it's might

Dose nothing... really stay?

The beautiful birth... of a child that's fare

The seed of life... in a child

The dream of a child... so precious and rare

Then life disappears... in a while

Agony... resulting in hurt

A merry go round... and round

Dose something make it... all a-worth?

A reason that makes it... all sound?

We all are a game... to the devious rat

Who uses us... just for play

Then crumples us up... like a used party hat

And tosses us... simply away

There's a hope deep within... that death can not touch

The pain only last... for a while

But the hope held within... can heal all the pain

And leave our hearts... with a smile

The hope held within... is more than just hope

We know that there's more... than we see

It isn't a dream... a wish... or a hope

Your heart really knows... what will be

You can not deny... God's deep love

He doesn't love... only a few

He feels for us all... he worries for each

He cares for... the sinner too

He opens his heart... to the wander

He opens his arms... to the sad

He's there for the grieving... and those without hope

And he's love us... despite... when we're bad

He doesn't stop loving... because were not good

He doesn't give up... on the lost

He isn't demanding... despite our mistakes

His Son paid... our sin's cost

He patiently waits ... for eyes will see

And ears... that wish to hear

He never will force us... to do what he wants

He shows us true love... without fear

He doesn't scold... when we are wrong

He loves us... back to his arms He doesn't want... for us to be forced He dose not... threaten with harm

He's patient and kind... He's loving and good He's everything... we should be He's honest and open... He's gentle and calm He's wants his children... Free

Free from force... Free from fear Free from anger... and woe Free from hatred... Free from greed Free from the sins... we all know

He never... will force us... to love him Our prayers... he dose not shun He does... not... ignore us Or say... we're not worthy... of his Son

He doesn't... stop loving us... ever He treats all his children... the same He dose not... show a preference He doesn't punish... with shame.

He loves... all of us... with great wisdom As a father... loves... his child He never... will falter... in this love He is constantly... patient... and mild

So do not forget... that he loves you And do not pretend... he's not there Always remember... he knows our hearts And faithfully... always will care

Remember... the faith... in our minds Don't let... the odds... tear you down Remember... the hope... for all human kind Keep your dreams... in your heart... And your feet... on the ground... Tamar 1999

AN ENDING

I had a child, a baby boy

Who was my pride, my greatest joy

Some evil men took him from me

And wouldn't let his mind go free

They gave him back and laughed with glee

The mask he wore was hard to see

I didn't know he was so sick

I thought he was the best

I believed the lies he told

And made our lives a mess

I truly didn't know that he

Would hurt someone so small

Or be a brother other than

The one he showed to us all

I don't know where my son's mind went

The day that those men took him.

I just know, when I got him back,

My real son was missing.

By Cheri

My Thoughts

The Dragon Slayers

by Loris J Matheny *

The Dragon Slayers have come;

The strong of heart,

Great battles they have won.

The Dragon Slayers have come;

They fight a fine fight,

Never do they turn and run.

One by one they come;

A challenge for the Dragon,

But they are slain- every one.

Two by two they come;

They fight in teams

Because two are stronger than one.

Ten by ten they come;

The Dragon leaves the safety of the cave,

In the open it fights on.

Legion by legion they come;

The Dragon fights, the Dragon tires,

The dead cover the ground like dung.

The small child has come;

The Dragon is weak from years of battle,

The child throws a single stone.

The end for the Dragon has come;

Defeated by the Dragon Slayers,

Brought down in the end by one.

COMES THE DAWN

After a while you learn the subtle difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul,
and you learn that love doesn't mean security,
and you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
and presents aren't promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes open,
with the grace of a women, not the grief of a child,
and you learn to build all your roads
on today because tomorrow's ground
is too uncertain. And futures have
a way of falling down in mid-flight,
after a while you learn that even sunshine
burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate
your own soul, instead of waiting
for someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
that you really are strong,
and that you really do have worth
and you learn and learn
with every good-bye you learn.

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The day of innocence
Of new thoughts

And joy

And peace

And light

Rip the page from my book

A blackness, a haze, a haunting of spirit

You look at me

And your eyes are now empty

Your soul is dark

And your form is cavernous, ashen, looming and daunting

I look into your face and search for some semblance of the person I know

And trust.

But that one is gone

or maybe I was mistaken: you were never there.

Time slips into the grey, to unrecognizable figures and sounds

Yet deep in me is a song, a drumbeat to which I must dance

A chance.

I lift my shamed face and open my eyes

and crawl free

Refusing one last, backward glance

Turn off the roar in my head

Shake off the chills in my skin

I now stand

And I feel the rain, warm and singing

Washing you from me

Now I see the Son.

And in the reflection at my feet I see:

The joy

The peace

The light

And I don’t need you anymore

Now I hold small hands and see little faces that look like mine, before.

And they trust me, and are looking in my eyes.

Like the widow with coins of small worth,

I have learned to give from what I never received

To lift water from an empty well

And give it willingly and free.

But I would like you to know

You will not cage my soul;

And my spirit is not chained and wears it’s scars as badges of courage.

To you I owe nothing.

You are fading and I must be going

Life is sweeter, things to do, life to live, air to breath. Willow

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The Only One

A troubled child with vacant eyes sits quietly alone with not much to say,

He killed her puppy and said she would be next if she told her friends at play.

A father who betrayed her trust, violated her innocence and left her emotionally numb,

To afraid to confide or tell anyone, she cries inside, thinking she is the only one.

One day in a moment of trust she tells her mom the atrocity that happened to her,

The one person she needed to believe her the most instead increased the hurt.

Her mommy cried, then said she lied perhaps it was all just harmless fun,

She wonders did it really happen or am I just crazy? I must be the only one.

As she grows older with courage mustered to the elders she now goes,

The men she trusted for justice call her a liar so no one will have to know.

With a pedophile’s denial she’s told to be silent or she will be shunned,

Her heart is crushed she feels so alone she believes she is the only one.

With pain so great she thinks she will burst, confides in a friend who turns her in,

While the child molester is an elder she is told she has committed the greater sin.

Charged with slander as the announcement is read she sits in the audience stunned,

Her friends are gone, her parents turn away, why am I the only one?

A silentlamb she’s been for years as the pain continues it’s hard to face her fears,

One day she learns she is not alone by reading of victims who share her tears.

With righteous outrage a roaring lamb to help the children her healing has begun,

To finally be believed and given support with slow realization she’s not the only one.

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To The Silent Lambs. 13/08/01 14:24

It is good to hear the "Silent Lambs" speaking out. You all have suffered and are still suffering. Let me tell you what I did when I was traumatized. (It wasn’t by sexual abuse: earlier in life, yes). I studied all the Psalms. They are, as you know, prayers, written in exquisite Hebrew poetry. I read them, studied them, meditated upon them and prayed to get them into my heart and my mind. I wrote them in poetry form, in the modern idiom. I did not write an academic treatise. I concentrated on those things that told me what was in the poet’s mind and heart. I wanted to see the depth and intensity of appeal and the urgency of tone. I wanted to see, as it were, his tears and hear his cries and feel his beating heart. In this way I could relate them to myself. Then I would write the poem. The style and meter of each poem reflected the mood: sometimes of course the Psalm was full of elation and joy. This provided light relief and balance. I would constantly pray to get the flow of thoughts, until I got it right. Our heavenly Father never let me down. It took me about six months: I was so spiritually refreshed! I did not set out to write a masterpiece and I did not seek to replace God’s inspired Word. But I found great comfort: I had shed my burdens and I was readjusted. This form of cure I recommend to you.

Another thing I did was to study all of John’s writings, particularly his first letter. I used J.B. Phillips New Testament and more recently I obtained William Barclay’s excellent commentary of I John. Think about this: John was very old when he wrote his first letter. He had a lot of time to absorb the things that Jesus had done and said. He had been in "the bosom position" he knew every trait and nuance of his master. Can you see the logic here: if we could fully understand John’s words, then we too could be in the "bosom position" This is surely an antidote for those who have been savaged by wolves and treated contemptuously by so-called shepherds of the flock. Please look at the way Phillips puts 1 John 3:2 "Oh dear children of mine (forgive the affection of an old man), have you realized it? Here and now we are God’s children." An obvious question one asks here is, "Why? Why if we are His children does He allow these things to happen to us?" Let me try to explain the way I see it.

God is "The Greatest" in all departments. How, for example can we know of God’s almighty power but by demonstration? What happened at Egypt all those years ago is still reverberating around the universe today. Can one defy God and cruelly oppress his people with impunity? "Egypt" is a timeless reminder, a byword! It resoundingly says "No!" Be fully assured about this that God will vent his anger today against those who abuse his children and those that shield them. He will visibly demonstrate his love for his dear ones. Even now there are courageous men and women who are "knocking on people’s doors". Behind some of these doors are government officers in London and Washington D.C. who have before them on their desks right now, documents stating the facts about your mistreatment. This is right: they, by God’s appointment are rulers, the "Caesars" of this world. Others are being disturbed by a constant "knocking on their doors", doors to their ivory towers.

Do you want to know the constitution of a new administration? Then please read the letter to the Hebrews. It speaks of a king/priest administration. The power vested in the king is tempered by the compassionate understanding of the priest. Does the word "priest" concern you? Then in the writer’s words, "Consider Jesus, he was an apostle and a priest" Think about it; an apostle is one that is "sent out" a priest is one that appeals to God on our behalf at the "mercy seat" and consequently, blessings flow to all supplicants. This two-way involvement will characterize the new administration: the order of Melchizedek. The king’s sword will come down heavily on any that try to usurp power to themselves for their own glory: the ivory towers will go: abuse of the lambs stems from abuse of authority. Furthermore it would comfort us to know that this "order of Melchizedek" would be the order of the day, the status quo, by God’s sworn oath

Silent lambs, rise up like lions, reassert your dignity as one of God’s children. Proudly flaunt your flowing mane, your glory; not like that proverbial ball of wool that was tight and knotted and tangled, symbolic of your mangled emotions. Seek the comfort that God gives, "His rest". (Spiritually minded Russians have an expression "We are resting in the bosom of God") There is no shame or loss of dignity residing "in the bosom of God." Please accept this letter of mine. It is written in the spirit of 2 Corinthians 1:4, 5 (J. B. Phillips) "For he gives us comfort in our trials so that we in turn may be able to give the same sort of strong sympathy to others in theirs. Indeed, experience shows that the more we share Christ’s suffering the more we are able to give of his encouragement"

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I feel the society must come forward and swallow their pride and admit their
mistakes and their back turning, maybe people might have a little respect for
them. The society must write letters of apologies to the
victims/survivors/and families of the abused. A list of all convicted and/or
confessed or exposed and confessed molesters must be posted in the WT and
Awake and also posted with a picture of the abuser in all Kingdom Halls,
convention sites and assembly halls and in the restrooms. If the abuser or
the society feels that this would be an invasion of privacy or be harmful to
the reputation of the abuser..TOO BAD...the molester invaded the privacy of
the abused and harmed the abused sexually, emotionally, mentally, sometimes
physically and spiritually (abuse kills the spirit of the child and may often
kill their faith in Jehovah). If the molester doesn't think this is fair,
they don't have to attend meetings, that it, plain and simple! All abusers
must be reported to the authorities immediately, and when the elders know of
the abuse, they too are responsible to report the case whether the
congregation is in a mandated state or not, (the city council may pass a law
stating that if anyone knows or suspects child abuse and doesn't report it,
then they will be guilty of a crime). All cases of abuse, involves all of us
really, it is our moral and Christian obligation to report and to support and
validate the abused. (I know of some JW's who have reported their brothers
and sisters to the elders for things as petty as slight gossip). Why are the
friends so afraid? They should put themselves in the shoes of the abused
child and imagine for a moment how frightened the child/youth was at the time
of the abusing...imagine knowing that this person, who the child may have
trusted and loved, touches them, fondles them, masturbates on them, performs
oral sex on them, or makes them perform oral sex on them, maybe takes
pictures of them, sodomize them, rapes them, sure not all these things may
have happened, but some of our loved ones have faced this situation. Imagine,
living with your abuser, eating at the same table, sleeping in the same
house, sitting next to them at the halls, having this person tell you they
love you and then on top of all that, you see them giving talks, preaching,
praying and telling you to be a good little boy or girl because Jehovah loves
good little girls and boys. Telling them when they cry..stop it or I'll give
you something to cry about....the abuser already gave them something to cry
about-for the rest of their lives. The abuser betrayed the child's trust,
took their innocense, gave them a reason to doubt whether Jehovah is alive,
or that he doesn't hear the poor child's prayers to please make daddy stop
hurting me, Jehovah why don't you hear me? My God, what are people
thinking...its just that they are not thinking. The abuser has put his shame
onto the victims(when the shame isn't theirs) to be carried with for the
rest of their lives, until they heal emotionally and spiritualy. Well shame of
the abusers and all those who cover up, and support them. How can a person
heal spiritually , when the shepherds turn their backs on them and never stand
up for them and their families, then tell them or their families not to warn
other families of this monster, otherwise they too may face being marked or
disfellowshipped. Where is the justice in this? I feel, and I know I speak
for others when I say, no field service (without intensive therapy) no public
talks, no privileges (why should a child molester be rewarded, simply because
they make all the meetings,) no doing side jobs or helping out where there
are children/teens present or live. There is NO EXCUSE anymore..the elders
can no longer say: We didn't know what to do-This is new to us-We are not
professionals-We are imperfect. Well, now the elders know what to do and many
elders are standing up for the victims/survivors, only to be condemned for
their actions, and this is not new to the elders-look back at all previous
cases they have never been properly handled, the elders are not
professionals, I feel some of them are not empathic enough to be
professional, then learn, take courses, volunteer, make visits to child abuse
trauma centers, look into the eyes of a victim/survivor and see the pain,
bitterness and righteous anger! Don't look away...don't be afraid..we will
not hurt you the way our molesters hurt us. The society needs to take some of
the money donated to have abuse awareness centers in each hall, have
qualified and checked out people to volunteer their time to take courses on
child abuse, hand out resources and information to families, and children. I
am a full time worker and I have found the time to volunteer my time with
three abuse awareness organizations, the "friends" can too. Going out in
field service to further the kingdom news? The elders could show their
support to victims/survivors and( hopefully not) future victims but
encouraging the members to put some volunteer time into helping in the abuse
awareness centers in the halls, or in each circuit. Let us not put off this
urgent situation that is taking place in kingdom halls across the country and
internationally, we have to face the facts whether we want to or not, we can
no longer act like the three monkeys and see no evil, speak no evil and hear
no evil......our children need our protection and our support and this is
what Jehovah wants..to provide for the orphans and an abused child is
considered an orphan if no one provides or cares or supports them mentally,
emotionally and spiritually.............From a mother and sister of incest
victims/survivors and the mother and sister of verbally, mentally,
emotionally abused children.

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I believe Watchtower Policy should be changed. For people to get hurt and the ORGANIZATION not do anything and cover it up, tells me there is a problem with the organization, not the people. Yes, the people have a problem, but the organization is the blame by covering it up, and making people stay silent.

As for the people that have abused or molested a child: GET HELP. You cannot expect to recover by reading a bunch of information and pray to get your healing. Yes, praying might put you back in your personal relationship with God, but as for your mental health, you need professional help.

The organization: you need to change your policy and protect the flock. It is YOUR responsibility to help those in need. Don’t sit around and do nothing. Report it to the police. It is a crime to abuse and molest children or anyone. Not only does it make the people of the congregations look bad but also Jehovah. To Him, I believe it is a big slap in the face when you refuse to do the right thing. So make a rule, “If you are molested or hear of a molestation, don’t hesitate, report to the police.”

As for the congregation: You all need to take a stand and march for the right truth. Don’t be afraid of the organization. Look at what they are! It seems they are a bunch of child molester PROTECTORS! So if you want to be a part of an organization that supports sickness, then go on. But if you want to be a part of an organization who loves and supports God and love, join in and help Brother Bowen and others march for what is right.

I believe that I would still be a part of Jehovah’s Witnesses if this was not a problem. But the facts I am reading tell me there is a problem. I am sorry there are sick people in the world that need help, but it is their choice to get it. I cannot make myself follow a religion that hides child molesters.

To all who read this, I had a child molesting case happen right in my own home. It all brought this weird world I have never saw before in the Jehovah’s Witnesses organization. It made me see a problem. No, I was not molested, but someone I love very much was and I was hurt when I learned she was told to keep silent about it. And just to think, thousands of people have had this happen to them, blows my mind. I can’t imagine all the hurt the people have gone through.

So as far as I am concerned, I will not claim a religion that covers up such cases. I hope one day all this can be forgiven and cleared up, but I know it won’t happen until Watchtower Policy is changed.

Written by a fifteen year old sister.

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"BED OF TEARS"

She sits upon a bed of tears
All alone and full of fears
She can not comprehend
Why the boo boos do not mend
So she stares upon the wall
And in her childish prayer does call
I want my daddy to come here
to protect me from my fear
But to daddy I can not call
for he is the meanest of them all
He whispered he loved me and said not to tell
But when he touched me I wanted to yell
He hurt me bad and made me cry
He said he loved me, so I don't know why
Can you hear me Jesus, are you awake?
I don't want to bother you, but my daddy I hate
Please forgive me for being bad
I know I make my daddy mad
He told me if I don't be good
While by my bedside he stood
I'm afraid he will love me no more
He said be good, like the times before
But Jesus it hurts when he loves me at night
I want to tell Mommy, but then they will fight
I want to go away to be with you
But I have to know, do you hate me too?

Dedicated to my daughter

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I cannot seem to yell loud enough to be heard,
I cannot seem to breath deep enough to catch my breath

I cannot seem cry hard enough to get rid of the pain,
I cannot seem to think long enough to find the solution

I cannot seem to dream high enough to find another way,
I cannot seem to run fast enough to escape it

I cannot seem to hold my chin up high enough to keep from drowning in it,
I cannot seem to focus my eyes enough to become enlightened

I cannot seem to speak softly enough to suffer on my own,
I cannot seem laugh enough to convince myself it's not there

I cannot seem to reason with myself logically enough to be convincing,
I cannot seem to argue with myself strong enough to straighten it out

I cannot seem to find enough words to explain to anyone,
I cannot seem to be alone enough for it to hush

I cannot seem to be with anyone that will understand,
I cannot be free enough to look..................................................TLFS

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Today, April 20th is the fourth anniversary of a very special day in my
life, the anniversary of my rebirth.

This rebirth was not a religious experience, but it was something totally
pure, amazing and healing.

It had nothing at all to do with the Society, or rather, of freeing myself
from it.

It was however, a giant first step in that direction.

Today is the fourth anniversary of the day I got letter that changed
everything. The words on the pages were alive, and magical: they released me
from my old life and for the first time. I saw life no longer in black and
white. I saw it in rich, glorious Technicolor.

I stopped seeing in tunnel vision. Finally, my eyes broadened and saw the
full scope of my life. Not just what it was at the time (which was in
shambles) but what it could be.

Four years ago today, Justin said, "I love you."

I was at the time quietly going about the business of getting my affairs in
order. Planning my exit from this life into what I believed would be a
peaceful sleep, free of pain. I thought so little of myself at the time the
man I was married to at the time convinced me that I was worth so little,
that I imagined my child would be better off if she were raised by someone
else. Someone who could be happy, because I didn't believe I ever could be.

With this declaration that he loved me, without expecting anything in
return, Justin gave me the keys to freedom. Even though I never imagined
then that we would ever meet in person, he said that he knew the position I
was in, that I was "trapped", and that he would be there to be my friend,
supporter, a safe place for me to fall apart, no matter what happened.

Even though he was hundreds of miles away from me, and I'd never heard his
voice or seen his face other than in pictures, I felt closer to him than I
ever had to anyone in the world. I knew that he accepted me exactly the way
that I was: something that no one else in my life had ever done, especially
not my Witness family.

I didn't have to be anything or do anything to earn his love. In fact, I
didn't even try to make him love me: it just happened and it shocked the
hell out of both of us. He didn't know how I would react to his
announcement. He told me later that he believed that I'd never speak to him
again after he said what he felt.

At the time I felt a sadness about loving him in return. I didn't believe I
could ever get free of the man who controlled everything in my life. The man
who I had to ask for five dollars if I wanted to take my child to McDonalds:
the man who told me what I should wear, how much I should weigh, how to wear
my hair, and what I was allowed to think and feel. The man who called me
every filthy name in the book and berated my performance as a mother at
every opportunity, the man I could never, ever please no matter what I did.

It was with those three magic words, the greatest gift anyone has ever given
me that I began to even imagine that my life could be different. They broke
the spell of the words that Mike had been saying to me for so long: Words I
still hear echoed in my nightmares.

"Do you think anyone will treat you better than I do?"

The road to freedom was built with that first stone. From that day I began
building my path to freedom, even though I didn't realize at the time that
was what I was doing. Though it seemed impossible to even fathom on the day
I read Justin's letter, just four days short of a year later I was legally
divorced, and planning to meet Justin in person for the first time (which
happened a month after the divorce was final).

Without Justin I certainly wouldn't be alive today. He gave me a new life,
and that in turn helped create a totally new life for my child as well. I am
grateful to him for so many reasons. He not only gave me the gift of his
love, he showed me how to begin to accept myself, and that gave me the
vision to create a new life.

I never imagined that I'd ever stand before him, look into his eyes and be
able to hear him whisper I love you in my ear. But he believed in me. And in
beginning to see myself through his eyes, I realized that I was a hell of a
lot stronger than I ever imagined.

So celebrate with me today, my friends. Remember that no matter how
desperate your life seems at times, that one day, one hour, one moment can
change it forever for the better.

Rejoice in the possible that rises above the improbable: the victory over
obstacles that everyone in our lives considered insurmountable except the
two of us.

Don't let anyone tell you what you can't be. Instead trust in the ability
you have to be anything that you want.

Peter Gabriel said what I'm trying to say very well in the song
"Wallflower":

"They put you in a box
so you can't get hurt
let your spirit stay unbroken,
may you not be deterred:
Hold on...
You have gambled with your own life
and you face the night alone
while the builders of the cages
sleep with bullets, bars and stone,
They do not see your road to freedom,
that you build with flesh and bone."

I remember the first things we said to each other when we finally met in
person for the first time.

I'd been pacing the airport terminal for hours before his plane came in. I
remember that there was a man waiting for a flight who was watching me, all
dressed up, pacing back and forth. He smiled at me as I wrung my hands
nervously, I think that he thought that I must be waiting for God himself to
pull up to the gate.

When the plane finally arrived, it seemed as though a million senior
citizens made their way down the jet way. The crowd finally started to thin,
and I thought, "Oh God, he changed his mind, or missed his plane, or..."

Then suddenly, there he stood. It was just like watching his picture come to
life, and I had never seen a more breathtaking sight in my life. He finally
made his way through the crowd and walked up to me. I don't remember this,
but he tells me that I had my hands over my mouth when I said my first words
to him:

"Oh my god, look at you!"

He reached out and touched my face, gently, as if he was
afraid that I'd disappear if he got too close.

"Why were you worried? Why on earth were you worried? You're
so beautiful." he whispered.

(I had told him that I hoped he wouldn't be disappointed when he finally saw
me in person)

He hugged me and buried his face in my hair and said "You smell so good..."
and I laughed.

We stood there in the terminal for a long time, just hugging. He finally
whispered I love you, and I said it back, words that we'd waited more than a
year to say in person. The most
beautiful sound I'd ever heard in my life.

We were both shaking really hard and pale as ghosts, so we decided to sit
down. We sat in seats at an empty gate and stared at each other.

We held hands so tightly our fingers went numb, and when we felt like we
could walk toward baggage claim, we only got so far before he finally
stopped walking, turned to me and kissed me.

I will never forget what he said after that first kiss. We'd already
discussed marriage at that point, but still it was amazing to hear:

"That's it...now that you've kissed me, you have to marry me. You don't have
a choice."

If I live to be a hundred, I will never forget the joy I felt at that
moment.

We were married one year and two weeks from that day.

To those of you still fighting...don't give up on finding love, happiness,
and peace in this life. It can happen. I'm living proof.

To Justin, who is now my husband, Thank you Imzadi, for not giving up and
walking away like everyone warned you to do, thank you for believing in me,
when I couldn't believe in myself, for seeing that goal at the end on days
when my eyes were too clouded by tears to see it myself. You truly saved me
"in every way a person can be saved."
I love you, with all my heart.

~Lily Paige, April 2001

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Lyrics ...... He Ain't Heavy. He's My Brother - Written by B. Scott and B. Russell

The road is long
With many a winding turn
That leads us to who knows where
Who knows when
But I'm strong
Strong enough to carry him
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

So on we go
His welfare is of my concern
No burden is he to bear
We'll get there
For I know
He would not encumber me
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

If I'm laden at all
I'm laden with sadness
That everyone's heart
Isn't filled with the gladness
Of love for one another

It's a long, long road
From which there is no return
While we're on the way to there
Why not share
And the load
Doesn't weigh me down at all
He ain't heavy, he's my brother

He's my brother
He ain't heavy, he's my brother...

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The Hero Falls:

Remembering a young life lost to suicide

The first thing I remember when I try to picture him in my mind is that he wasn't terribly tall. He had a nice shock of sandy colored hair, bangs that tended to lean over one eyebrow in an appealingly lopsided fashion. His smile was enchanting. His hands moved with fluid grace as they translated the talks on the program from spoken words into American Sign Language. He was, to my sixteen year old mind, poetry in motion. Oh yeah, I was smitten. It wasn't as if I ever thought for a moment that I had a chance with him. No way. It wasn't about that, it was more akin to hero worship, I suppose. Dangerously close, perhaps, even to the forbidden "idolatry". He was a few years older than I, a full-time Pioneer. A shining example in his congregation. Girls buzzed around him like bees to honey and I figured that shy, awkward, self conscious me had no chance in the world of becoming a reoccurring character in his life. Still, he was a very good flirt. He made it plain that he noticed me. I believe now it was in terms of thinking that in a few years, I'd be pretty cute. It all began this way.

I had no clue that this would be different from any other convention, until he and a few friends swept into the cafeteria, where people were choking down their regulation Circuit Assembly runny scrambled eggs and burned toast. I remember his entrance distinctly because he was whistling. I tried in my mind to picture the song that it was, and finally, recognizing it, I laughed: It was the theme song from Mr. Rogers Neighborhood. I was eating pre-packaged chocolate pudding, which was the only thing on the Assembly Hall menu that I could tolerate. He approached with the excuse of speaking to my older sister, who knew his family well. He introduced himself, offered his hand and shook mine firmly, without hesitation. He sat in the empty seat beside me. "Hi neighbor." I said, referencing his whistled tune. He laughed. "Won't you be my neighbor?" he said with a grin.

I am thinking now that he thought, at first sight, that I was older than I actually was. That happened to me often. He noticed what I was eating right away and commented on it. I responded, "It's the real breakfast of Champions. Champion what, though, I have no idea." He laughed. He proceeded to eyebrow wiggle, wink, and otherwise charm me al