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Mrs Saturday, February 12, 2011
@ 5:35 AM
I have a deep sinking feeling ...
I've only come across your web sight within the last week, I applaud your work but it gives me a deep sinking feeling of both hope & fear.  I feel like running except my hiding place has been getting too small. Or perhaps   my voice has been getting bigger,stronger & a bit older. I'm a couple generations into the JW's which if you were to ask those still remaining JW they'd say it was an Honor. There isn't anything honorable about threatening those of us abused & forced to keep silent. they work very hard to make us afraid, to fear them ... Its terrifying! I have fought till I couldn't fight them anymore!  I went to Bethel & was told that I hadn't the   (2 witnesses) present for this abuse . I had 4 other victims  who refused to come forward when called so they said they had no choice but to take his side since he's been (to them) such a fine friend, brother, elder & pioneer . He stated I had been a over sexed child he couldn't control, that I attacked him on a regular basis.  He said if he was guilty for anything it would be not telling me no. In that moment I had nothing else to fight with. Every time I try I'm told to honor him, to forgive whatever I think he's done, besides he's old now who is he going to hurt,  When I told my mom she put her hand on my knee & said "I know". 'He did some stuff to me & my sisters but you leave it to Jehovah, he knows His heart or he wouldn't still be an elder.' I can't share the entire story in a paragraph  but I can say thank you, you've helped so many. Namaste'

KDW Wednesday, February 9, 2011
@ 5:16 PM
To RB
Are you serious?! What bizarre treatment and teachings!!! I am so sorry to any of you who were treated this way!! It's truly, truly bizarre and sick! How can anyone not see that all these children were victims of abuse?! Weird, weird, weird! Disgusting!!

RB Friday, February 4, 2011
@ 7:56 PM
Beaten
I was forced into this cult as young as I remember in the early 70s and was beaten many times-they promoted it. "Spare the rod spoil the child" They even questioned us at the meetings asking "You don't mind being beaten do you?" and one of my friends said "No I don't mind" and got applauded for it. I looked down for somewhere to hide. At a bible study I remember every child going over the hostess' lap for a spanking as if to prove a point of allegiance to the other parents. "You will thank me for it when you're older" they used to say. Well here's my reply: "Get stuffed Satan".

KDW Wednesday, February 2, 2011
@ 3:58 PM
To Caoleco1
Obey? Without question?! That's enough to scare anyone away from a religion! No freedom of speech even? Stay away. Stay away from any religion or organization that attempts to put limits like this on people! I am so glad you are refusing to be involved anymore in any way with this group. Nobody has the right to tell someone they must do as they are told - - especially without questioning the 'orders'. Wow. I'm so glad you came to your decision and acted on it!!

Derek D. Tuesday, February 1, 2011
@ 3:33 PM
Thanks
Thanks for looking out for the kids. Growing up as a JW I know of a lot of molest victims. I even knew the sick bastard Rick McLean that is on the FBI's most wanted list. Had no idea who he was back then. Thank God! A co-worker of mine recently passed away from a prescription drug overdose. He was a very nice gay man that had been raised a witness and had been molested by one of the "anointed" for years as a kid. We spread his ashes at sea off the canoe(tradition here in Hawaii). His brother told my wife's friend that he died because he stopped going to meetings. She naively thought he meant AA meetings. Many thanks for all you are accomplishing with this website!!!

jwpedsneed2bstopped Monday, January 31, 2011
@ 8:41 PM
Enjoy your site
Connect this site up with facebook please. Thanks! Admin's note: Here you go: http://www.facebook.com/pages/Silentlambs/144752662252367

Caroleco1 Monday, January 31, 2011
@ 12:40 PM
May God Bless You All
Dear Friends: I stumbled on this site by accident and the love that is expressed here I will continue to come back from time to time.I have been studying with the witness off and on for the past 30 years, never could bring myself to take the plunge. I was never well liked, I have always been a rebel and you were not going to tell me what is-and not be able to back it up. I could have stayed with the Catholics for that matter with all the mysteries that they where throwing at me. I was making plans to take the plunge at the upcoming assembly on Mar 5. The sister, lovingly pointed out to me that I had a problem accepting authority. I agreed with her. Then like a fool she said,"If the brothers tell you do something you do it without question." "We all must OBEY the brothers". She left but it was something about that word OBEY that I could not stomach. Here I am 54 years old and I have to obey. I went to take nap. When I woke up it all came back to me. "Crisis of Conscience" by Ray Franz, all the research I had done on the Watchtower Society 11 years before. The first word came to mind was CULT. Called my study teacher and informed her I would not be back. Wrote a letter to the local congregation that I was resigning from the school, and to be put on THE DO NOT CALL LIST. It has been 3 weeks but I have not looked back, I can not in good conscience lure anyone into this destructive cult. For those who are wondering how I forgot all this in the first place, 11 years ago I had to undergo open heart surgery. I was on life support for 3 hours but I found that a lot of things I had to relearn and a lot of things I just could not remember. Sooo I thank you all for lifting my spirits. Much love! C.C.

XYZ Thursday, January 27, 2011
@ 9:34 AM
Worlds Apart-the film
There is another movie out. A friend saw on the Sundance channel. It is filmed in Denmark and about a young JW girl in a romantic relationship, it goes into how she was alienated by her family, and a lot about JWs that we all know too well. It's out there and easily found. I suggest everyone see it.

Just Visiting Monday, January 24, 2011
@ 4:19 PM
Great Film About Cults @ Sundance.
I don't know if any of you have heard the news from Sundance Film Festival, but here's the heads up for any that are interested: There's a film called "Martha Marcy May Marlene" that's getting great buzz. It is about a young woman who is trying to reintegrate back into normal society after leaving an abusive cult. I am hoping to see it at a later date. Can't go into much detail, but I am writing a film script about child sex abuse & religion. If anything happens w/it, I will try & keep you all posted. *JAV*

SKB Friday, January 21, 2011
@ 1:07 PM
response to my comment
Thank you so much for your concern. We have communicated honestly and have honestly concluded that our future does not include one another. I am waiting for reassurance that my ailing dog is indeed better. He has congestive heart failure and has had several scary episodes. He's doing better, thank God. I am going to a Presbyterian church this weekend to meet people, and, hopefully if things get rough here, have a safe place to go.

XYZ Thursday, January 20, 2011
@ 9:38 AM
TO YIELDING
I don't understand why thoughtful people like yourself stay in this organization. You see wrongs that you cannot right. There are other faiths--mainstream faiths, that are far more enlightened, far more compassionate, far more all aware of what Christ's call to us is. Please enlighten me because I would love to understand the draw of such a cult.

KDW Wednesday, January 19, 2011
@ 5:48 PM
To Susan K. B.
Hi, Susan, I am glad things are not as bad as they were, but they still don't sound good, either. You deserve to be happy with someone, not just to 'peacefully' coexist. That's not living. I hope that eventually you two can talk with each other and truly communicate honestly and genuinely. I wish you both the best! Take care.

KDW Wednesday, January 19, 2011
@ 5:38 PM
Re: Changes
I wish someone could talk with or correspond somehow with these two Witnesses who told me that the policies regarding pedophilia and wife abuse have changed. I don't "think on my feet" well when I talk with JWs, and I think another person could do so much better. These JWs are convinced that I am reading lies on the internet and said that I am gullible. I told them that I do know that not everything on the internet is true, but that I filter what I read. I was told that you can't filter a lie with a lie. They are convinced that I am a gullible person, that they have the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth, and that I am being influenced by lies. Well, I am sure that I am not always reading 100% of the truth on the internet. Also, I don't like it when articles regarding the Witnesses are just plain snide, rude, or even mean. I like reading mature, well thought out articles that are also apparently well reasoned and logical. I don't know if I am perhaps a little gullible, but I sure can't fall for everything the JWs are taught, either. These people I talked with are very articulate, not to mention very nice, and really sweet. It is difficult not to buy into some of what they say, because they express themselves so thoughtfully and reasonably. Help. What is really going on in this religion regarding pedophilia, wife abuse - - just any kind of abuse?

K.M. Tuesday, January 18, 2011
@ 12:06 PM
"Yielding"
The new buzz word among the Elders is Yielding. In effect this means that if you don't agree with the two elders' decision, then you are working against the holy spirit. This will in turn disqualify one as an elder. This concept can have dire consequences, especially when dealing with two other elders who are ignorant to the law, have a prejudice, are in a hurry, or, are just stupid! I was on a committee recently where Yielding went terribly wrong. A 14 year old girl was sexually attacked by a 16 year old boy with a troubled history. The girl was doing everything right when it comes to telling the truth. She filed a Sheriff's report of aggravated sexual battery, and needs psychological assistance. Due to prejudice from one elder that benefits financially from this boy's parents, he had the strongest voice in the meetings. The other brothers had to fall in line or have their qualifications questioned. This creates a homogenizing effect. There is no longer an opened minded conversation to evaluate facts and apply [Watchtower policy] in an elders meeting. How sad! The results in this case: the girl, (the victim) was disfellowshipped and the boy was privately reproved. It was appealed. However, as is the case in almost all cases, it was upheld. After all the appeals committee has to live with original committee, and don't want to rock the boat and suffer payback at a later time. This case is being reviewed by the Branch. What a shame that due to selfish motivations this young sister suffers with her family. Not to mention the shame on Jehovah's name. My frustration comes from being emasculated in not having any valuable input, due to the threat of being removed for not Yielding. Although we as elders can't officially endorse Silentlambs, I have privately suggested that the girl's parents get in touch with you for further assistance. May Jehovah bless all this matter.

SKB Monday, January 17, 2011
@ 11:59 AM
no worry
My situation is not as dire as it had been. We don't talk religion or anything else. I do feel "censored" but he probably does too. I still have my feelings about JWs, I think they are not inclusive but exclusive. The opposite of Christ's real truth. They are what Christ abhorred!

VK, Latvia Monday, January 17, 2011
@ 3:34 AM
Thanks to SL
I would like to thank the authors of this web site for the information they publish. Being a JW since 1994 (when I was 15) I knew of the many issues JW's have to face when dealing with the general public (like say blood transfusions, unchristian methods employed by many men invested with authority, broken families etc.), however, the sheer fact that sex crimes against minors is this widespread problem among JWs is absolutely shocking.

DJB Sunday, January 16, 2011
@ 9:36 PM
Changes? No I don't think so!
I have been told the same thing- that the organization has made changes to encourage those to go to the police and help victims. I don't see any changes. Both my X's still are considered in good standing and their supporters are still there... So I say loudly NOTHING HAS CHANGED!

man711 Sunday, January 16, 2011
@ 8:16 AM
KDW
I'll believe the changes when I see in writing that all child molestation cases must be reported immediately to the police without elders doing anything else. It must be published and included in the elder's manual. Otherwise it's window dressing.

KDW Friday, January 14, 2011
@ 5:16 PM
Changes?
Recently I was told by a couple of Jehovah's Witnesses that now the religion realizes that pedophilia should be reported to the proper authorities and that changes are being made in the Jehovah's Witnesses's religion to see that this is done. Also, they mentioned that abuse of wives is not being tolerated anymore, that women are encouraged to leave their abusive husbands if they need to. Are these changes occurring on a widespread basis among congregations? I hope so! Maybe these extremely necessary changes are going on, but they are taking time due to the slowness of change and understanding. Could someone please enlighten us about this? These changes would be a Godsend!! Of course, that goes without saying!

KDW Friday, January 14, 2011
@ 4:54 PM
To Susan K. B.
Hi, Susan, you are sure in a tough situation! Have you looked for other options in the California area - - places to stay and so on? You need to get out of your current situation. You can't live like that! You need to find somewhere to go, at least temporarily until a permanent solution comes up. No, it is not a sin for Jehovah's Witnesses to grieve. Your friend is having some personal issues that he needs to deal with. They are not your problem, and I hope you recognize that! You would do well to check in with some social service agencies in your area. You need to get out of your current living conditions! There are ways for you to do that, and I wish you success! Soon!!

PCW Monday, January 10, 2011
@ 9:42 AM
REPLY TO COMMENT by Susan K.B.
Get out of the prison you are in. You are a human being and deserves to be treated as such. God loves you, always has and always will. This guy is so wrapped up in his own guilt, for whatever reason that is and you are allowing him to make you miserable, as well. The drinking is a crutch that you cannot fix, and it's probably something he was doing all along. In your effort to change things for him, you are the one that has been changed. You have become the babysitter, the cook and housekeeper. Be watchful that you don't become his unloved and unwanted property. You are always welcomed to visit this site, so don't be a stranger.

CDD Thursday, January 6, 2011
@ 7:19 PM
thank you
I was raised as one of Jehovah's witnesses, I was also verbally, physically, mentally abused by my mother who is a Pioneer and still one of JW's. I was also molested by my biological brother. My mother and the elders did nothing about it. I wish I had stumbled on this site earlier, I am so happy to see that there is a forum for people to talk about and share their story, I am 40 yrs old now, the abuse I suffered as a child has impacted my life, never married, no children, never been in a relationship. It makes me very happy to see someone stand up and advocate for children who can't fight for themselves. Thank you

Susan K. B. Wednesday, January 5, 2011
@ 5:07 PM
reply to comment
Thanks for the advice. The problem is I live with this person I have mentioned. He is disfellowshipped because since his wife's passing he has had 2 relationships. We are celibate but even that is not allowed. It's all about appearances. A JW comes to the house to pick up his stepson, another JW, and won't enter the house. Instead she calls from her cell that she is here. That's what led me to look into "disfellowshipping" and what led me here. He now hates me, I'd say. We have to be together at this point in time, I've an ailing dog who shouldn't be put on a plane and my home is in NJ, and I am in CA. My home in NJ is stripped of everything because it is up for sale. SO we just do not speak. Awkward but I am getting accustomed to it. The verbal abuse was horrid. He drinks and when he drinks...watch out. I only have a memory of what he was like before. He has been too verbally abusive for me to have feelings for. He ridiculed my religion (I'm a Presbyterian), won't let me speak of my son who passed a bit over a year ago. Is grief a "sin" to JWs? So I am censored and get no support with that...it's wretched. AND now this hatred. Silence, keeping feelings in, all make it difficult but doable. Thanks for your support!

KDW Wednesday, December 29, 2010
@ 5:40 PM
Don't feel bad
Susan, it is very hard, very difficult, to get anything across to most Jehovah's Witnesses. They are so set in their belief system that it is almost impossible to get anything through to them. No matter what you are trying to tell them. Yes, it is very frustrating and exasperating, but please don't give up hope for JWs, don't despair of them. You never know when something is going to 'hit home' and they will sit up and take notice - - like, "Hey, wait a minute, something is fishy with this religion!!" I have tried with a couple of family members to get them to understand a few things and gotten absolutely nowhere. If you are not careful, worrying about anything registering with JWs can really stress you out! Someone recently told me that it has to come from within the Jehovah's Witnesses themselves, the wondering, the doubting. At one time, years ago, I doubt that I would have let anyone tell me something was wrong with the Jehovah's Witnesses' religion. But, something happened inside of me, and I just simply was not happy in that religion anymore. Be careful that you don't get stressed out about the Witnesses changing. As this person also told me, a person could actually get physically ill letting it get to them. I want to see things change as much as the next person, but, I, too, have learned the hard way that you can't make it happen. Something has to snap or click, or something inside the Witnesses themselves before they can see that something is dreadfully wrong.

inq m Tuesday, December 28, 2010
@ 4:33 AM
reading the news
I noticed that the previous commenter, stated that JWs do not read the news. Having been one for 30 yrs, and had the habit of reading several newspapers a day, in addition to reading other non JW periodicals and also TV-news, I cannot relate to that comment. Most of the witnesses I knew, were just as informed as every body else on what was going on in the world....

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