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December 2001 Guestbook

Remote User:
Date:
01 Dec 2001
Time:
19:14:02
Comments:
My name is Michelle Truett and I am a disfellowshipped J. W.
I attempted suicide after their loving act. Thank God
I was not
successful because apparently God still loved me because
after 14 years of not being able to conceive a child I
became pregnant
and gave birth to my miracle baby Noah. My e-mail address
is michelletruett@aol. com.

Remote User:
Date:
02 Dec 2001
Time:
21:34:10
Comments:
Great site! There is more abuse going on in the church than
we think, both cult and even in the true Christian church! Keep
up the great work. Linda from Barrie, Ont. P. S. As the world
fractures more & more as Jesus delays His coming, web-sites
like yours will be needed more & more. God is able to totally
heal & set free! Thank-you Jesus!

Remote User:
Date:
03 Dec 2001
Time:
02:55:08
Comments:
Thank you for sharing your stories and your support. Randy
Watters posted my story years ago. He created a category called
sexual
abuse/other abuse. No one else would post my story. Rick Ross,
a self proclaimed cult counselor rejected my story. He told me
I was a victim of "False Memories". Randy was the first
person to take me serious. I'm very grateful to Randy Watters.
I'm an adult sexual abuse survivor. I have a Legal Assistant
Degree and I do not have "False Memories". My memories
are very real and traumatizing.

Remote User:
Date:
03 Dec 2001
Time:
03:09:40
Comments:
My Best Friend was molested by his Father. Everyone knew about
it in the congregation. The Elders were told, but nothing
compared to wife beating. My friends Dad also hit his Mom
and she was
requesting a divorce. The Wife Beating was made public
but never the child molesting. My friend quit talking to me.
The child
molesting continues.

Remote User:
Date:
04 Dec 2001
Time:
16:58:11
Comments:
My heart goes out to those who have been victims to such morbid
abuse! I was raised as a JW and then married a JW. I
suffered both physical, mental, and verbal abuse by my husband.
The elders in the congregation refused to do anything about
it,
and told
me I was hard-hearted for not forgiving my husband when
I finally decided I couldn't take it any longer. Everyone
thought
he
was such a good christian. I finally divorced him when
I felt I was
falling into a very deep depression. Since the divorce
I
have felt as though a heavy weight has been lifted. I am
now shunned
by many that were my so called friends, although I am
not disfellowshipped. I feel the elders of the congregation should
also take this
type of abuse seriously. I know of somebody who committed
suicide for these very reasons. She was made to feel it
was
her fault!
These policies certainly need to change! --Anonymous

Remote User:
Date:
04 Dec 2001
Time:
20:52:36
Comments:
what a great service for the silent lambs of the org. little
by little the web is providing a lot answers and stirring
a lot of questions about this org. Its really interesting
to see
stories surface about abuse, the history of this self
proclaimed channel
of God. I wonder how long before this org starts to unravel.
Or what will keep it as tightly wound as it has been
To me personally it seems that doctrine will bury this org first
God bless, Randawg35@home. com

Remote User:
Date:
05 Dec 2001
Time:
01:12:24
Comments:
My child has been going to the JW for some time now. After
returning from a recent visit with her father she announced
that she no
longer would celebrate Christmas with me. She is 12.
She has been acting very strange for about 6 months. She has a
step=sister and I know something is wrong with her too.
I can't prove
anything
and my daughter wont tell. I don't know what to do. My
stomach is in knots. All my motherly instincts tell me
something happened very bad this weekend because her dads wife
was
out
of town.
Both girls are being weird. Where do I go for Help. I
have tried to contact a lawyer this morning but he has yet to
call back.
I understand that the JW have a bunch of church funded
lawyers and that small town lawyer do not want to fight
things
like
that. I have a little over a week before she is supposed
to go back.
I plan not to be here when he gets here to pick her up.
I want to change visitation or do away with it completely.
But,
I
can't prove anything right now. How can I get help for
my girl?

Remote User:
Date:
05 Dec 2001
Time:
01:13:36
Comments:
My child has been going to the JW for some time now. After
returning from a recent visit with her father she announced
that she no
longer would celebrate Christmas with me. She is 12.
She has been acting very strange for about 6 months. She has a
step=sister and I know something is wrong with her too.
I can't prove
anything
and my daughter wont tell. I don't know what to do. My
stomach is in knots. All my motherly instincts tell me
something happened very bad this weekend because her dads wife
was
out
of town.
Both girls are being weird. Where do I go for Help. I
have tried to contact a lawyer this morning but he has yet to
call back.
I understand that the JW have a bunch of church funded
lawyers and that small town lawyer do not want to fight
things
like
that. I have a little over a week before she is supposed
to go back.
I plan not to be here when he gets here to pick her up.
I want to change visitation or do away with it completely.
But,
I
can't prove anything right now. How can I get help for
my girl?

Remote User:
Date:
05 Dec 2001
Time:
17:21:11
Comments:
THANKS FOR bringing this to our attention SYBIL ,SYBIL JERRY
INC@AOL,COM

Remote User:
Date:
05 Dec 2001
Time:
20:28:30
Comments:
I respect everybody's opinions. But I am not agree with all
that stuff you guys have in here. We are "humans" and humans
make many mistakes. Because we are imperfects peoples, Thanks
to Adam and Eve. Some peoples make mistakes and never admits
that. You made a mistake and you pay for it. Before talk about
anybody, you have to stop and think very carefully why you let
someone hurt you for too long. Don't say that some religion messed
up your life. We are free to decide what we can or can't do.
NOBODY put a gun or a knife, etc. , on you, to do what you do
with your life. I was thinking the same way of you, guys, but
NOW I know that we make mistakes ALL the time knowing that it
wasn't right to do it. If you think for a moment there someone
that ALWAYS says "don't do it that way because you can get
hurt" and WE NEVER listen. It's very easy to say "look
what they did to me" POOR OF ME. It's not Jehovah or HIS
Witnesses the problem, it's US. That was very EASY talk about
the FOOD after we eat it ALL and there's NOTHING LEFT.

Remote User:
Date:
07 Dec 2001
Time:
21:23:50
Comments:
It is comforting to know that Jehovah's heavenly armies of
angels will come and slaughter evil individuals who will not
receive
the seal of God! "They were told not to harm the grass of
the earth or any plant or tree, but only those people who did
not have the seal of God on their foreheads. " (Rev 9:4)
Obviously that includes you filthy little pedophiles out there
who prey like vampires on young children. If you are a pedophile
who is reading this, and you possess a human soul capable of
love deep down, then you can get in your car right now, and drive
to a county mental health center. Tell them you suffer the mental
illness of pedophilia, pose a danger to children, and ask them
to check yourself in for treatment! Otherwise you will suffer
a horrible and well deserved death during the global cleansing
called Armageddon, because you will not receive Jehovah's seal
of protection. You will never know what it is like to live forever
in a peaceful world free of sick urges like pedophilia that destroy
everyone's peace of mind. You will soon be forgotten, dead forever,
without any hope, if you are a pedophile and you do not act before
it is too late. May Jehovah bless the efforts of those who labor
to maintain this site.

Remote User:
Date:
08 Dec 2001
Time:
22:27:00
Comments:
my name is ian. i was raised as a jehovah's witness. i eventually
escaped . escaped into a world i new nothing about. i
don't want to play the victim ,but i need help. emasculatedpeach@onebox. com

Remote User:
Date:
09 Dec 2001
Time:
15:56:39
Comments:
I FOR ONE AM PLEASED WITH YOUR WEBSITE, IT EXPOSES THE WTS
FOR WHAT IT REALLY IS, A BUNCH OF LYING HYPOCRITES,MIND-CONTROLLING,
INTIMIDATING B*******!

Remote User:
Date:
10 Dec 2001
Time:
02:02:12
Comments:
It's terrible that you can spew out lies like this. None of
what you claim is substantiated.

Remote User:
Date:
10 Dec 2001
Time:
23:22:26
Comments:
Awake June 22 ,2000 page 6
quote: Some people insult those who disagree with them by questioning
character or motives instead of focusing on the facts. Name-calling
slaps a negative, easy-to-remember label onto a person, a group,
or an idea. The name-caller hopes that the label will stick.
If people reject the person or idea on the basis of the negative
label instead of weighing the evidence for themselves, the name-caller's
strategy has worked.
I think the FDS speak to the person above better than I can.
silentlambs

Remote User:
Date:
11 Dec 2001
Time:
22:03:38
Comments:
The long news article that posted on yahoo headlines last summer
regarding molestation/JW reached many people. I questioned
the organization after reading this. This is abuse that
cannot be
covered up or explained away. It is wrong! I researched
for any other double standard/coverups. I was an inactive
believer
for
the last 17 yrs and active JW for 20 years before that.
I am a believer no more. I support your work. Silence is
not
golden.
e-mail: alderpatch@yahoo. com

Remote User:
Date:
13 Dec 2001
Time:
11:56:02
Comments:
I'm surprised at some of the thing on here, and pretty shocked
that no one has done anything to combat this.
I don't share your religious beliefs, but I do believe the things
spoken about here, and my heart goes out to you. The only way
this kind of serial abuse can be combated is for you all to
report it all. You have to all do it, and be persistent in getting
action taken. What shocks me the most is how utterly naive you
all are in thinking your 'elders' can or would do anything about
it. Why on Earth haven't you all gone straight to the police?
Here's what you ALL need to do:
Write here:
Federal Bureau of Investigation J. Edgar Hoover Building 935
Pennsylvania Avenue, N. W. Washington, D. C. 20535-0001 (202) 324-3000
www. fbi. gov
write everything that happened to you personally, or your family,
everything. DEMAND that they not only investigate this, but also
investigate all the claims and this cult and its methods. One
or two letters like this won't have much impact, but if you *ALL*
do this eventually someone high up will listen and they will
investigate and infiltrate this odd bunch. These are the best
people to deal with this, as individual law enforcement agencies
from various areas will only get part of the picture, not the
whole. They also won't have the clout to deal with it, like the
FBI will. Write letters, Emails, make calls, annoy people, let
everyone know what's going on. Stop hiding this, tell the world.
You must name names, let everyone know who did what. You may
get sued, but if enough people find out your being sued for calling
someone in this cult a child abuser publicly, then you can guarantee
others who will have been abused by this fool or fools will come
forward.
Lastly, don't let yourself be bitter or negative. Be positive,
force yourselves, and FIGHT! For your rights, and your decency.
People who do this kind of thing are not always monsters, sometimes
with the proper help they can overcome this, check out stopitnow. org
for more information. This place may help you too.
You've got to be strong, within, and keep on talking to others
about it until something is done to combat it. You won't change
things by writing it here, tell the FBI! All of you.
Bye.
J. jacob_march@hotmail. com

Remote User:
Date:
13 Dec 2001
Time:
15:38:54
Comments:
Interesting perspective. However, the problem is no better
in other religious organizations. Perhaps some research
with actual
numbers might further your cause. And please do not forget
to supply the numbers regarding other religious groups
so you can
make an accurate comparison.

Remote User:
Date:
13 Dec 2001
Time:
15:41:19
Comments:
Interesting perspective. However, the problem is no better
in other religious organizations. Perhaps some research
with actual
numbers might further your cause. And please do not forget
to supply the numbers regarding other religious groups
so you can
make an accurate comparison. Unfortunately, we live in
a SOCIETY that protects and advances the rights of criminals.
What should
be done about THAT?

Remote User:
Date:
15 Dec 2001
Time:
02:52:50
Comments:
It is an issue that all religions face. The abuse by people
who are in an oversight position.

Remote User:
Date:
16 Dec 2001
Time:
16:22:11
Comments:
I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness since birth till I was 18,
I had a horrible childhood. Was abused by my father while my
mother and "Elders" stood by and did nothing. I was
also severely beaten if I didn't attend the meetings! I was considered
a bad seed because I had worldly friends and listened to Rock
music! (What a joke!) I looked for comfort in Drugs and Booze.
I finally escaped at the age of 18 when my mother died. I felt
my world was going to end. My father had a new girlfriend 2 weeks
after my mother died (a sister) again the elders stood by and
did nothing. As soon as I got away I felt so much better and
free, I had no need to get high or drunk. I am now 37 and very
happy. But, I did need some therapy, its hard growing up with
no Birthdays or Christmas, it kind of messes-up a kids head.
So anyone thinking of joining don't, the scars will take years
to heal. BEWARE OF THIS SCAM THEY WILL BRAINWASH YOU, my 18 year
nightmare took place in New York City at the East Manhattan Congregation.
If anyone need any advise, feel free to contact me.
Rebecca Ulloa rebeccaulloa@hotmail. com

Remote User:
Date:
16 Dec 2001
Time:
16:22:43
Comments:
I was raised as a Jehovah's Witness since birth till I was 18,
I had a horrible childhood. Was abused by my father while my
mother and "Elders" stood by and did nothing. I was
also severely beaten if I didn't attend the meetings! I was considered
a bad seed because I had worldly friends and listened to Rock
music! (What a joke!) I looked for comfort in Drugs and Booze.
I finally escaped at the age of 18 when my mother died. I felt
my world was going to end. My father had a new girlfriend 2 weeks
after my mother died (a sister) again the elders stood by and
did nothing. As soon as I got away I felt so much better and
free, I had no need to get high or drunk. I am now 37 and very
happy. But, I did need some therapy, its hard growing up with
no Birthdays or Christmas, it kind of messes-up a kids head.
So anyone thinking of joining don't, the scars will take years
to heal. BEWARE OF THIS SCAM THEY WILL BRAINWASH YOU, my 18 year
nightmare took place in New York City at the East Manhattan Congregation.
If anyone need any advise, feel free to contact me.
Rebecca Ulloa, rebeccaulloa@hotmail. com

Remote User:
Date:
18 Dec 2001
Time:
09:38:21
Comments:
I am sooooo ANGRY!!! It's like my entire life has been this
big fuckin; lie. (excuse my language) I graduate from high school
and all I hear from my parents and the so called "brothers
and sisters" from the congregation is how I should enter
the full time pioneer service and become a secretary instead
of fulfilling my dream of becoming a writer which of course
would require me majoring in college for 4 years!! I WANNA BE
FREE!!!

Remote User:
Date:
18 Dec 2001
Time:
21:47:09
Comments:
I was worried about one fellow who was always with the children
and my friend suggested i go to verysafechild. net and
i did. Now I know he is a pedophile so we don't let our children
go near him

Remote User:
Date:
18 Dec 2001
Time:
21:47:13
Comments:
I was worried about one fellow who was always with the children
and my friend suggested i go to verysafechild. net and
i did. Now I know he is a pedophile so we don't let our children
go near him

Remote User:
Date:
18 Dec 2001
Time:
21:48:27
Comments:
sorry, i forgot to say, if you want to detect a pedophile in
cunning disguise go to www. verysafechild. net I hope it
helps stop these evil men from hurting kids

Remote User:
Date:
19 Dec 2001
Time:
00:54:48
Comments:
So many site like this across the web that exposes the evil
of JW and it's so sad that the message haven't reached
most people
all over the world. Well, in no time it will. One thing
is not being discussed in any anti-JW sites is the illegal
methods
of
this cult in converting people to embrace their religion.
Deceptions, fears, bribery, lies, intimidations, emotional
abuse and black
mail, social engineering, connivance and all forms of
manipulations are being used in order to maneuver one innocent
prospect
to accept a Bible study with them. I am a victim of this
cult. Your love ones might be also a victim.

Remote User:
Date:
19 Dec 2001
Time:
19:09:54
Comments:
I read the stories you have published here and I find it strange
that a lot of these "victims" were raped or molested
by their fathers. I find the whole site questionable simply because
the web master was supposedly an elder who was done "wrong" Don't
get me wrong. I abhor child abuse of any kind. But, I also know
that God abhors a liar. Each one will have to answer to God for
themselves. God hates a false tongue as well as he does abuse
of little children. I cannot see the purpose of your site except
to vent your animosity toward the Jehovah's Witnesses. You cannot
come to the conclusion that JW are any worse than any other religion
or group of people. If I had something against the Witnesses,
I could write you a 100 made up letters for you to publish on
here and only the foolish would believe them. The Internet is
good for some things but in many ways it is only the tool of
Satan. No, I will not sign my name or will I leave my email.
This is the first and last time I have commented on something
such as this and the whole thing , from your web site , to the
letters, to even writing this makes me ill.

Remote User:
Date:
19 Dec 2001
Time:
19:11:46
Comments:
I read the stories you have published here and I find it strange
that a lot of these "victims" were raped or molested
by their fathers. I find the whole site questionable simply because
the web master was supposedly an elder who was done "wrong" Don't
get me wrong. I abhor child abuse of any kind. But, I also know
that God abhors a liar. Each one will have to answer to God for
themselves. God hates a false tongue as well as he does abuse
of little children. I cannot see the purpose of your site except
to vent your animosity toward the Jehovah's Witnesses. You cannot
come to the conclusion that JW are any worse than any other religion
or group of people. If I had something against the Witnesses,
I could write you a 100 made up letters for you to publish on
here and only the foolish would believe them. The Internet is
good for some things but in many ways it is only the tool of
Satan. No, I will not sign my name or will I leave my email.
This is the first and last time I have commented on something
such as this and the whole thing , from your web site , to the
letters, to even writing this makes me ill.

Remote User:
Date:
19 Dec 2001
Time:
19:29:43
Comments:
I posted a bit ago, Dec. 19th,2001. I don't want anyone to get
the impression that abuse cannot happen or that it cannot
happen within the congregation of Jehovah Witnesses. I'm
sorry!

Remote User:
Date:
19 Dec 2001
Time:
20:36:43
Comments:
Really like this site very informative

Remote User:
Date:
20 Dec 2001
Time:
00:54:02
Comments:
The purpose of this website is to expose liars. You see those
in leadership positions of the WT Society have clearly
stated there are no problems with molested children and
Wt policy
is sufficient to protect them. This is untrue and this
website exists
to expose the truth of the matter. The name silentlambs
is just that, a name offered the the thousands who have
suffered in silence
and now have a forum to speak out, be comforted, and
know we believe they tell the truth. If it happens to expose
lying
hypocrites, then so be it, as should anyone be exposed
who
allows children
to be hurt with no remorse.
silentlambs

Remote User:
Date:
22 Dec 2001
Time:
18:43:32
Comments:
I can see how this would be true. My husband was caught forging
a federal check for over $6,000 and I reported it to
the elders and they insisted that I stay SILENT. I also know
women who
were beaten by their husbands and were told they must
stay by their
husbands and NOT report it. Isn't it funny that these
same men are still out in the ministry week after week looking
so innocent
to other people?
I have just decided to leave the organization this week. I don't
believe God would have an organization that has filth in it like
this.
Khayton@mediawave. com

Remote User:
Date:
24 Dec 2001
Time:
15:37:09
Comments:
How do we go about deprogramming ourselves after being raised
in this org. ? I have been inactive for a few years, but
I still find myself in the middle. . . confused. I'm not even
sure
where
I stand regarding the holidays! I still suffer from a
lot of guilt and unworthiness. . . and I think about my children
I am
raising. What do I tell them? I can see why there is
a
lot of depression
in this organization!

Remote User:
Date:
26 Dec 2001
Time:
23:15:00
Comments:
Thank you for your loving, caring concern,not to mention your
time, effort and expense. You have helped so many abused
ones by giving them support and hope.
My father-in-law finally admitted he sexually abused his granddaughter
only after two of his grown daughters came forward with the fact
that he had sexually abused them from young childhood. Of course,
he shed tears, and the JC reversed their decision to disfellowship
him and instead privately reproved him. No warning to the parents
in the congregation so that they could protect their innocent
children!!
Needless to say, the family has been destroyed. By the way,
he lives in southeast Alabama with his wife. His oldest daughter
and her husband (both JWs) took them in. My mother-in-law claims
she knew nothing about it, but the girls do not believe her.
When the elders met with us to inform them of the situation,
the first thing out of one elder's mouth was "we don't want
the police involved". He lives in Tallahassee FL (where
my in-laws lived at the time of exposing his crime).
Thank you for allowing us to tell our stories and vent a little.
Needless to say, we are no longer witnesses (and neither are
the 2 abused and their families daughters). Bonwalksnowman@aol. com

Remote User:
Date:
27 Dec 2001
Time:
13:49:02
Comments:
My name is Jack Davis. I was first associated with Jehovah's
Witnesses at the age of 7;in 1965;when my father began
attending meetings at the Bridgeport Michigan Congregation. I
left six
years ago.
This is not my computer;it belongs to a friend; and I will have
to ask his permission to leave an e-mail address.

Remote User:
Date:
30 Dec 2001
Time:
14:02:39
Comments:
Wow, Growing up in the Organization, I can not imagine to horrors
that some of the stories on this web site. My heart goes
out to all of you, CB

Remote User:
Date:
30 Dec 2001
Time:
18:47:08
Comments:
Hi. At the age of 15, I was raped by a teacher. I was not attacked,
I allowed it to happen, mainly out of fear and insecurity.
Anyway, the Elders publicly reproved me because they
said I could have
run away and not let it happen. Also, they claimed it
made the congregation look bad. I lost my friends, my parents
blamed me
as well for the incident, they would not admit any blame
in the situation even though I had been verbally and somewhat
physically
abused my whole childhood. Elders even encouraged them
to spank
me good for what had happened. I was punished alright,
lost my driving permit, makeup taken away, grounded for
7
months.
Yelled at and told what a loser I was for several years.
Needless to say, I do not have a good relationship with
my parents to
this day.
This Organization, at least back then, did not comfort me in
the least. The elders literally yelled at me in the committee
meeting. Even as I cried, they offered me NO support whatsoever.
The only people that offered me hug or comfort were the police
and investigators on the case. They even offered to get me counseling,
which my parents refused saying that the only help I needed would
come from the Elders and the Organization.
Sick. Really sick. I am 32 and I can say I am a survivor. I
am in college now and very happy. To the active JWs who write
in and say that these stories are unsubstantiated, maybe we can't
give you tangible evidence on this forum, but these things can
and DO happen. I do not condemn the entire organization nor do
I hate all JWs. I still have great JW friends! But why would
God's holy spirit allow such injustice in His organization??
Cases like these go way beyond "human imperfection",
as it is so commonly said among JWs. People are clearly making
choices. Elders are clearly making these decisions. And, if the
society has these weird policies on pedophiles, it only adds
to the lunacy. Personally, I think the Governing body should
take a short course on all forms of abuse and signs to look for
in an abused person. They should learn about pedophilia and how
to handle these situations, including reporting these incidents
to the authorities. Maybe there would be a lot less heartache.
The society had better make some MAJOR changes in their outlook
on these matters. Oddly enough, the society is always worried
about congregations looking bad and supposedly keeping Jehovah's
name clean. Then why don't they clean it up?? Maybe then, there
would be no reason for websites like this one and we would not
have to have these conversations about tragedies like ours. Just
something to think about.
Thanks for reading my experience.

Remote User:
Date:
30 Dec 2001
Time:
18:47:43
Comments:
Hi. At the age of 15, I was raped by a teacher. I was not attacked,
I allowed it to happen, mainly out of fear and insecurity.
Anyway, the Elders publicly reproved me because they
said I could have
run away and not let it happen. Also, they claimed it
made the congregation look bad. I lost my friends, my parents
blamed me
as well for the incident, they would not admit any blame
in the situation even though I had been verbally and somewhat
physically
abused my whole childhood. Elders even encouraged them
to spank
me good for what had happened. I was punished alright,
lost my driving permit, makeup taken away, grounded for
7
months.
Yelled at and told what a loser I was for several years.
Needless to say, I do not have a good relationship with
my parents to
this day.
This Organization, at least back then, did not comfort me in
the least. The elders literally yelled at me in the committee
meeting. Even as I cried, they offered me NO support whatsoever.
The only people that offered me hug or comfort were the police
and investigators on the case. They even offered to get me counseling,
which my parents refused saying that the only help I needed would
come from the Elders and the Organization.
Sick. Really sick. I am 32 and I can say I am a survivor. I
am in college now and very happy. To the active JWs who write
in and say that these stories are unsubstantiated, maybe we can't
give you tangible evidence on this forum, but these things can
and DO happen. I do not condemn the entire organization nor do
I hate all JWs. I still have great JW friends! But why would
God's holy spirit allow such injustice in His organization??
Cases like these go way beyond "human imperfection",
as it is so commonly said among JWs. People are clearly making
choices. Elders are clearly making these decisions. And, if the
society has these weird policies on pedophiles, it only adds
to the lunacy. Personally, I think the Governing body should
take a short course on all forms of abuse and signs to look for
in an abused person. They should learn about pedophilia and how
to handle these situations, including reporting these incidents
to the authorities. Maybe there would be a lot less heartache.
The society had better make some MAJOR changes in their outlook
on these matters. Oddly enough, the society is always worried
about congregations looking bad and supposedly keeping Jehovah's
name clean. Then why don't they clean it up?? Maybe then, there
would be no reason for websites like this one and we would not
have to have these conversations about tragedies like ours. Just
something to think about.
Thanks for reading my experience.

Remote User:
Date:
30 Dec 2001
Time:
18:54:55
Comments:
Hi. At the age of 15, I was raped by a teacher. I was not attacked,
I allowed it to happen, mainly out of fear and insecurity.
Anyway, the Elders publicly reproved me because they
said I could have
run away and not let it happen. Also, they claimed it
made the congregation look bad. I lost my friends, my parents
blamed me
as well for the incident, they would not admit any blame
in the situation even though I had been verbally and somewhat
physically
abused my whole childhood. Elders even encouraged them
to spank
me good for what had happened. I was punished alright,
lost my driving permit, makeup taken away, grounded for
7
months.
Yelled at and told what a loser I was for several years.
Needless to say, I do not have a good relationship with
my parents to
this day.
This Organization, at least back then, did not comfort me in
the least. The elders literally yelled at me in the committee
meeting. Even as I cried, they offered me NO support whatsoever.
The only people that offered me hug or comfort were the police
and investigators on the case. They even offered to get me counseling,
which my parents refused saying that the only help I needed would
come from the Elders and the Organization.
Sick. Really sick. I am 32 and I can say I am a survivor. I
am in college now and very happy. To the active JWs who write
in and say that these stories are unsubstantiated, maybe we can't
give you tangible evidence on this forum, but these things can
and DO happen. I do not condemn the entire organization nor do
I hate all JWs. I still have great JW friends! But why would
God's holy spirit allow such injustice in His organization??
Cases like these go way beyond "human imperfection",
as it is so commonly said among JWs. People are clearly making
choices. Elders are clearly making these decisions. And, if the
society has these weird policies on pedophiles, it only adds
to the lunacy. Personally, I think the Governing body should
take a short course on all forms of abuse and signs to look for
in an abused person. They should learn about pedophilia and how
to handle these situations, including reporting these incidents
to the authorities. Maybe there would be a lot less heartache.
The society had better make some MAJOR changes in their outlook
on these matters. Oddly enough, the society is always worried
about congregations looking bad and supposedly keeping Jehovah's
name clean. Then why don't they clean it up?? Maybe then, there
would be no reason for websites like this one and we would not
have to have these conversations about tragedies like ours. Just
something to think about.
Thanks for reading my experience.

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